Read | Interact | Login / Signup Caenwyn (09:55 02/14/2006)
Why are men so STUPID? Why can't they understand how not to screw up a simple holiday, especially when their loved one gives them very specific instructions on what to do?!?!?!

Two years ago I told my husband what florist, what arrangement and when to have it delivered. He forgot and ran to the store to buy something when I was on my way home from work. Last year, I told him what florist, what arrangement and when to have it delivered. He gave me a box of candy that he had bought in bulk on our anniversary, killing two occasions with one purchase, so that he wouldn't have to bother to remember Valentine's Day. This year, I didn't tell him anything. He called me this morning and told me he is volunteering to work overtime today. Needless to say, I haven't gotten the flowers I told him to buy the last 2 years. I HATE MEN!!!!!

Caenwyn (10:26 02/14/2006)
Hustler?
Caenwyn (10:50 02/14/2006)
hmmmmm. lol.
Caenwyn (11:20 02/14/2006)
lol. I wouldn't complain. I think your lady must be very, very, very, very, very, lucky.
Caenwyn (01:17 02/14/2006)
Yeah, my husband just called me and is wondering why I'm upset. :P
Caenwyn (01:51 02/14/2006)
No, I know he wasn't trying to surprise me. I started crying on the phone and he didn't have anything to say. This is the third year in a row he has forgotten about it.
Caenwyn (01:57 02/14/2006)
We've been married seven years, a couple for ten.
Caenwyn (02:41 02/14/2006)
He showed up at my classroom a few minutes ago. He isn't working overtime. He had flowers for me at home. But when I started crying on the phone earlier, he decided to bring them to me at work. Now I feel like a heel. But here's my question. So I have specified for several years now is that what I would really, really like is for him to have flowers for me in the morning at school. Yes, he brought me flowers and yes, he was planning something. But I've been so upset all morning that by now, it's just.....I don't know. I know I shouldn't complain, because he DID do something for me. But when everyone else has flowers on their desk all day, and my students are carrying around huge teddy bears and bundles of balloons, it seems that it would be simple for him to plan ahead and have something for me in the morning. I mean, did we need the drama? Why can't he just follow adhere to my simple request? It would make us BOTH happy. Crisis, you're a boy. Explain, please.
Caenwyn (03:12 02/14/2006)
you're sweet
Trouvist (08:43 02/14/2006)
I have varied opinions of this holiday. Basically I don't understand why everyone treats this day with anything more than just normal jubilation; however, I feel that instead if you really want to be like this, then do it all the time. If you enjoy giving bears, going to Hustler, having kinky fun, or surprising her at work with flowers, then do it all the time. I sometimes don't understand the requirement for a national holiday for the American Public (and this time Crisis and Caenwyn are in that group) to celebrate or appreciate something. If you appreciate it, let it be open and go out of your way consistently and constantly to do these "good things" for them.

/step off the soap box
Trouvist (05:24 02/15/2006)
Good boy. You do have skills my young sir.
Caenwyn (11:42 02/20/2006)
I've been sick. I'm back. And how can I say this? My husband and I are...having issues. And YES, I totally overreacted to the Valentine's Day drama; but there have been years of issues building up that fed the fire. I don't know what I want to do. I keep hoping that some magic fairy will wave a magic wand and I will fall totally in love with him again. But so far, it hasn't happened.
Caenwyn (10:27 02/22/2006)
:) Crisis, you're amazing.
Crisis (10:23 02/14/2006)
Well your husband doesnt know how to show love...not sure what else to say, I went to victorias secret, bath and body works, american eagle, and hustler for my girl, and tonight im taking her out to the place where we first had a drink and date and what not. Maybe its just that the holiday isnt important to him, I know A TON of people who just don't like the holiday and many of them are coupled. He loves you don't worry about that.
Crisis (10:24 02/14/2006)
also, you shouldnt have to tell them anything...especially more than once.
Crisis (10:47 02/14/2006)
yeah Hustler of hollywood. :) like the magazine they have a store.
Crisis (10:57 02/14/2006)
Oh yes, very fun...I'm a nuaghty little boy.
Crisis (12:27 02/14/2006)
I consider myself the lucky one, I'm a good guy however, better than most.
KatyDidIt (12:50 02/14/2006)
Crisis, your lady is very lucky. You need to teach other guys to be like that.
Crisis (01:05 02/14/2006)
Only so much teaching I can do, my cousin called me yesterday asking him what to do for his girl...I know his girl personally and she is a naughty little girl. I told him to go to Hustler and look into some outfits and perhaps some "fun things" he said the following with a harsh accent "WHY" I basically said, if you need to ask me why dont even bother going, god knows what you will buy. This is the longest day I have ever gone through...each second is killing me, I can't wait to see her tonight...screw work, this place sucks anyways.
Crisis (01:05 02/14/2006)
asking me**
Crisis (01:22 02/14/2006)
lol, lets hope he said he has to work late so he can surprise you...how long have you been married.

and why is it that I am younger than everyone I know and yet have such a better idea how to do this stuff, especially considering my parents don't celebrate this holiday. (this is not a holiday a religious jew would celebrate)
Crisis (01:35 02/14/2006)
oh, and katydidit, its nice to see another poster here...:)
Crisis (02:00 02/14/2006)
theres gotta be something hes planning...I don't understand it any other way...
Crisis (03:06 02/14/2006)
First, you should never make requests and never expect anything. Second, you need not to worry about what other people have...maybe they have those presents for a reason, maybe their relationship isn't very strong and some ass kissing needs to be done. My girl has nothing this morning because we werent near each other this morning and yet she knows I love her. You have to look for how he kisses you tonight, the things he says, and how he acts...what he buys means very little if it doesnt come from the heart. If your concered about the presents he buys you then your not really concerded with youre relationship on Valentines, just the idea of it. Give him a chance, and stop expecting anything in particular...it's Valentines and he is celebrating his tenth with you...lets hope it turns out to be excellent. I'm sure it will.
Crisis (03:16 02/14/2006)
Hopefully thats not sarcastic...

I just look at facts, I don't know his past or what he has done for you before so for me to analyze the situation realistically is almost impossible. Maybe hes just an ass and thats who you fell for or really maybe he has something planned. The fact that he told you he has to work late sounds like a plan to me...unless he really is an ass because I am scheduled till 6 tonight, if you think I'm staying till 6 your crazy. In fact, if they required me to I would quit on the spot, nothing will stop me from seeing my girl tonight and I'm sure he thinks the same. lets wait it out and see what happens.
Crisis (08:48 02/15/2006)
Good thing is I do this all the time, literally. This day I just did a little more, you see we were unaible to spend her birthday and the xmas and chanukah holidays together because of something which happened so we "made it up" last night. To top it off, when we were done with dinner I took her to the beach, the same spot where we had our first date. On that first date I didn't kiss her, touch her or disrespect her in any way which most guys would laugh at. I personally think it is one of the first things that won her over, so last night I took her back to the same spot on the beach and kissed her almost exactly where we were standing our very first night out.

Yeah, shes in love :)
Crisis (08:48 02/16/2006)
And last night, while she was in the shower I snuck into the bathroom and started playing a song I wrote for her (I'm a musician). It's one of the first times shes heard my voice...lets just say, she should be mine for quiet some time :)

yeah skills I guess, your heart gets broken a few times you tend to learn some of the ways.
Crisis (09:08 02/16/2006)
Caenwyn, whered you go.
Crisis (04:35 02/20/2006)
Fight, and fight hard...do not let each other go because there are problems...do you think you will find someone else and there wont be problems? It's not possible...fight through the problems, your together for a reason. Fight, Fight hard...

please trust me...I'm having problems of my own and the answer is to fight, until the day you die fight.
A guest (01:25 03/01/2006)
Thanks. :)

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