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Crisis (01:25 03/15/2006)
Where is Caenwyn?
Trouvist (04:20 03/15/2006)
Mad at me I bet?
Crisis (04:31 03/15/2006)
why sir?
Trouvist (04:36 03/15/2006)
I don't know. It was a guess.
Crisis (07:27 03/16/2006)
oh....strange, no emails from her either, hope shes doing well.
Crisis (09:33 03/20/2006)
Ok, I got an email from her. I guess she was on spring break or something but she said she would be back and posting soon!
Crisis (08:48 03/21/2006)
OMG SHES BACK!!! Everyone cancel the search parties, get the FBI'S Agents back to their wives, we have found her!!!
So, how the hell have ya been senorita? I Myself am doing great, went to the global gathering concert the other night, saw NIN, Shinedown, a bunch of bands actually, including Avenged Sevenfold (easily one of the greatest bands ever to exist). How is life? Husband? Job? kids?
explain yourself please k thx.
Crisis (12:53 03/21/2006)
Sounds good! Just don't make sex everything, it is important, but not enough to lose a marriage over.
Crisis (01:25 03/21/2006)
Hmm....uhm...try and look at who he is on the inside...
Crisis (02:19 03/21/2006)
lol! I happen to be an excellent kisser....and thats horrible Caenwyn!!!
Crisis (03:55 03/21/2006)
Oh man...what are you thinking of doing?
Crisis (03:55 03/21/2006)
before you do anything go get some toys, try and spice up your life...make him get a tan, work out a little...there are surely things you can do to save something like that. Don't just give up.
Crisis (12:24 03/22/2006)
might be, get some help? advice maybe?
Crisis (12:43 03/22/2006)
and wait, if your son wasnt adorable it would change things?
Crisis (02:03 03/22/2006)
yeah I hear that...you should really just try and work out your problems...you might still have something great there and don't even know it, and if you did get rid of it I'm sure that it would be then that you realized what you had.
Crisis (03:12 03/22/2006)
toys, tans, clothes, working out, and get away from the kid for an entire weekend and go somewhere and talk about all the stuff you two used to love about each other, about how you met and about what kept you together for so long. Have a nice dinner with candles and then make love to him for as long as he can stand. (lasting wise I mean)
just try it, I'm young, but I'm also a certified genious, not that trouvy would agree, but I'm smart as hell and this stuff works.
Just trust me and do it!
Crisis (03:33 03/22/2006)
So do what I said, go somewhere...try a new atmosphere for a weekend, try to do his hobbies, get him to try yours, if flying an airplane for a weekend helps or playing video games or attempting funny sexual acts is what is needed then do it. I try all this stuff with a girl I've only had for a little while, so do it for your marriage and for your kid. You will be happy again I promise you, but put effort into it, not that you are, just make sure your effort is in the right department.
Trouvist (01:16 03/23/2006)
Crisis sir, I think you fail to see that they might never have actually loved each other. There's nothing to hold on to if there was nothing there in the first place.
Trouvist (01:17 03/23/2006)
And I should castrate you both for your grammar and spelling. Both grammar and spelling have gone to the wind with the two of you.
Crisis (07:50 03/23/2006)
Yeah I think we kinda gave up with the lack of attendance of this website, it seemed to die so, so did my grammer. I think she referred to loving him in the passed, no? maybe I missed something.
Crisis (09:14 03/23/2006)
Congrats! Oh man, the hole...I love him but not in love with him thing, been there before...it is very hard to turn back but what will happen is something drastic will occur...perhaps you will end up going on a date with another man, or just have a drink with another man, the other man will say or do something completely retarded and suddenly you will miss your hubby like crazy, and when you get home to him and your lips touch his you will realize how much you are in love with him.
You guys have a great future ahead of you, I've heard FAR worse than this turn out great...so keep your heart in tact and have no worries.
Crisis (09:27 03/23/2006)
which can be fixable, I've heard many couples having problems with this and they fix it, go to a counselor there are pills, excercies and things that can be done. Use toys, videos, new techniques...sometimes two people just simply are not compatible...but it should be fixable.
I had a friend that slept with his girlfriend about 300 times and never once got her off, they seeked help and now shes addicted to him...its possible, just do some research.
Crisis (09:47 03/23/2006)
haha, well I've got problems of my own, but I know what needs to be done...so just figure out what you have to do.
Crisis (10:33 03/23/2006)
Oh not a thing, just not having a place to live right now means getting laid MAYBE once a week...so by the time I get some Im going crazy...I might be moving into the town house in the next week or two, we were just waiting for the guy to close on it.
Crisis (10:48 03/23/2006)
Im down for 3 times a day, one of the things my girl first originally liked, but right now weve got no where to do it and shes not usually down for the hole car thing, weve spent a combined total of probably around 2 grand for hotel rooms, she wont do it at my grandparents because shes resepectful...hopefully I get my place sooner than later, I'm going nuts.
Crisis (11:18 03/23/2006)
:) my girl accommodated me last night to the point where a gold medal should be given to her...holy god was it...wait a second this is none of your business, SSSHHH!!!
Crisis (11:43 03/23/2006)
lolololololololololol lol
Trouvist (11:47 03/23/2006)
You both make me sick. Seriously.
Crisis (12:19 03/23/2006)
It's because he has little to no sexual experience.
Don't listen to what his response will be, it's nonsense.
Crisis (12:42 03/23/2006)
I know, I know he has...experience is the word
not plural.
No, I'm kidding he has had one more once I am sure...but that means very very little.
Crisis (12:55 03/23/2006)
yes, I have heard him say hes quiet good at it...but truthfully that means crap, especially if youve been with only young girls and very few of them, its actually impossible to know anything about yourself in that situation. I'm sure hes got the idea down and might be skillfull at it, but how the hell is this conversation becoming focused on trouvist sex life...
Crisis (01:22 03/23/2006)
I don't know what your talking about.
Crisis (01:54 03/23/2006)
Anyone could have posted that, I have no clue what this is all about.
I've been in guam for the last 4 years, I couldnt have possibly posted any of this nonsense! your lying!
Crisis (02:01 03/23/2006)
:)
Crisis (03:04 03/23/2006)
yeah well currently I don't even have a permanent residence and my computers are all packed away so I can't play shit! sucks.
Trouvist (01:30 03/24/2006)
You nailed it right on the head Crisis. I'm actually a virgin. Tedium, I think that you got too eager, but things will be as they will be so just carpe diem. Caenwyn, go get laid.
And all three of you take any of what I just said however you want, truth or not.
Crisis (07:36 03/24/2006)
:)
Crisis (07:54 03/24/2006)
oh, and Last night was just awesome...AWESOME I say!
Crisis (10:51 03/24/2006)
I think waiting till marriage is simply retarded. You want to wait till your married so when you try to perform on your loved one you last 2 seconds and then all of the sudden your wife says, "oh....no", yeah...not good. Bang bang bang as many times as possible that way your wife is happy...
Caenwyn (08:43 03/21/2006)
No! I'm not mad at you, dork. I've been okay, just busy. And I was on Spring Break and you KNOW how I feel about posting from home. But I do feel loved now... :)
Caenwyn (11:42 03/21/2006)
I'm okay. Husband and I getting along really well but still a few difficulties here and there - mostly still in the sex department.
Baby is adorable, learning new words and toddling all over the place.
Work is okay; two months to summer vacation.
Been kind of depressed but getting over it. Starting another new diet in an another attempt to lose weight. Got my nails done. Need a haircut.
Grad school is going well. Have a paper due tomorrow and I haven't started writing it yet though.
Know I'm using fragments. Don't crucify me, Mark.
Caenwyn (01:02 03/21/2006)
Well, not being too overly attracted to your partner can be a problem.....
Caenwyn (02:00 03/21/2006)
But he gives mushy kisses. ick. And I just don't like him to touch me most of the time.
Caenwyn (03:51 03/21/2006)
I don't tell HIM that. I think it's a mental thing. I think I love him more as a friend now than as a lover.
Caenwyn (10:56 03/22/2006)
I'm not thinking of doing anything. I want my marriage to work because of my adorable son and because Cody is a wonderful father, a great friend and a good, good man. I just don't know what's wrong with me - there has to be something wrong with me that I can't truly appreciate him.
Caenwyn (01:53 03/22/2006)
If I didn't have a son, yes. I honestly would have to say that I wouldn't be trying so hard to make it work if we didn't have a child.
Oh, I hope he never, ever sees this site. It's nice to be able to talk about what's really, truly on my mind but he would flip. But I have to talk SOMEWHERE and all of our friends are... OUR friends.
Caenwyn (02:40 03/22/2006)
You're not listening. I'm NOT getting rid of it. I'm wanting to keep it. I just don't know how to fix it.
Caenwyn (03:28 03/22/2006)
lol. you make it sound so easy. we got together because it was convenient. we were friends and all of our friends hung out together, like a club or something. i saw him everyday even when we weren't dating. we never even went on a date until we had been together for two months or so. and that's because i told him i wanted to go out. so i set the day and time, picked him up, and we went to Outback and then went back to his apartment and hung out with our friends as usual. the only things we have ever really done together is play video games, eat fattening food and sit on our butts. he's always into different hobbies or something, archery, remote control airplanes, learning the harmonica, sharpening knives, etc. i pretty much just read and play video games - that's what i've always liked to do. neither one of us is particularly physically active. i used to be a lot more into sex, but he wasn't, so i made myself cool down to his level. but now he's always chasing me and i don't want him. it's weird.
but he's a good, good man. he's a great dad and he adores me.
Caenwyn (09:05 03/23/2006)
We DID love each other and I still love him. I just don't know if I'm IN love with him.
Caenwyn (09:06 03/23/2006)
And I just got an "A" on my grad school paper. :P
Caenwyn (09:20 03/23/2006)
But I'm not going to give up. We've been getting along much better and actually enjoying the time we spend together. The only thing that's really not working at the moment is the sex part.
Caenwyn (09:34 03/23/2006)
lol. Crisis the sex therapist! lol
Caenwyn (10:20 03/23/2006)
Tell me. What's going on with you, honey?
Caenwyn (10:36 03/23/2006)
Once a week, huh? Back in the day, when Cody and I were first dating, we were on every day, sometimes twice a day. Then we moved in together and it was about every two days. Then we got married. And it went to two or three times a week, to once a week, to once every ten days or so, to once every two weeks or so.
I always wantedd it A LOT more than that...but Cody didn't. But now, like I said, I really don't want to bother most of the time but he chases me around like Pepe Le Pew and I just perform to accomodate.
Caenwyn (10:50 03/23/2006)
spelling. "accommodate"
Caenwyn (11:38 03/23/2006)
sigh.
Caenwyn (12:04 03/23/2006)
Why? I don't understand why we make you sick. Is it the grammar and spelling or the content? Elaborate please.
Caenwyn (12:29 03/23/2006)
He says he has had sexual experience...
Caenwyn (12:45 03/23/2006)
Oh my. From my understanding, he's quite good at it, but simply isn't all that into it. At least that's what he's said to me. I would actually have no idea first hand.
Caenwyn (01:15 03/23/2006)
You started it!!!
Caenwyn (01:51 03/23/2006)
Crisis (12:19 03/23/2006)
It's because he has little to no sexual experience.
Don't listen to what his response will be, it's nonsense.
Caenwyn (01:59 03/23/2006)
ROFL ROFL ROFL!!!!!!
Caenwyn (02:34 03/23/2006)
Crisis, you need to play WoW. :)
Caenwyn (03:18 03/23/2006)
lol. Good point. :)
tedium (09:58 03/23/2006)
I had trouble with the first (and only) girl I had sex with. It was amazing, but every once in a while I would feel really bad about it. First of all, the situation hit me like a stealth bomber. I figured out she was interested in me and in only a few hours I was no longer a virgin. I'm sure that was my first mistake. My second was speaking my mind to my roommate (who I didn't really know that well), who went and told her that I was an asshole who didn't think that it meant anything. I was completely misunderstood, but she gave me another chance.
What I'm trying to figure out now is whether or not my upbringing (pretty standard, somewhat overprotective christian childood) is the only reason I had trouble with it. I mean, if I hadn't spent so much time in highschool wishing that I could have sex and at the same time thinking that I would never even get the chance before I was married, would I have been more easy going about the whole situation? And if I had been more easy-going about the whole situation, would the relationship have fallen apart?
Caenwyn (10:42 03/24/2006)
Tedium, all I can tell you is that you are NOT an evil person for having sex before marriage. Most people do, whether they admit it or not. And personally, I don't think you should wait until you get married to find out if that chemistry is there. Marriage is hard enough when you DO have some chemistry...but to not have any? That would be impossible.
Just take your time. You'll make mistakes. Just learn from them.